It’s ironic that in recent light of being dumped, I was sent a link to this blog article, written by a girl named: Saucy Sara. I’ve never met this girl, nor do I know of her. However, she seem to have a huge following on MySpace and is quite the looker. I don’t know what she actually does for a living, but my guess - probably the same as anyone else is only an assumption - based on the sexy poses and clothing she has in her albums.

Needless to say, I was quite surprise as to what she wrote about HMG (That’s High Maintenance Girls not Heavy Machine Guns). Reflecting back on my failed relationship her blog was really interesting as she defined that there are 2 types of HMG…

Being a guy that I am, I typically define HMG as :

A person who has expensive taste (re. clothing, restaurants, etc.) and feels they are better than most people and usually judge others based on outward appearances. In addition to requiring much time and many products to keep their appearance at the current level. Needless to say, requiring much attention from others in relationships, such as romantic, social status, financially or otherwise.

With that said, here is her article:

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I once went on a double date to a concert. The guys we were with were really excited — they’d been looking forward to it for months. My female friend and I were just along for the ride. Seconds before the main act was about to go on — as the guys we were with began to tremble with anticipation — my friend looked at her date and said something that made it patently clear she was oblivious to anything but her own selfish needs.

“Go get me something to drink,” she demanded.

Her date, without complaint, went to fetch her drink. My date went with her. As I sat there, I had to bite my tongue to keep from saying something. But why couldn’t she get off her lazy little butt and get her own drink? She knew he’d been looking forward to this concert all year, so why was it his responsibility go get her drink? Was it, perhaps, because he was…

The Man?

It never ceases to amaze me, the demands women place on the guys in their lives. They expect, even after months of dating, that he pay for everything. They never even offer to pay for so much as an ice cream cone. They demand he always drive, that he always do what she wants to do, and that he always buy the more expensive gift when they exchange presents. In fact, I was amazed to learn one year that most of the women I worked with didn’t even get their husbands & boyfriends anything for Valentine’s Day, despite the fact they expected a gift to be waiting when they arrived home.

I was raised better than that.

I’m just going to say it. There’s high maintenance…and then there’s just plain rude. Why men put up with this crap is beyond me. To me it seems, no matter how beautiful the woman, if she’s expecting to just take, take, take in a relationship, she’s expecting way too much. Whatever happened to a woman looking out for a man’s needs? Have we stretched the rules of courtship to include being waited on hand and foot?

defining the differences between women who are high maintenance and women who aren’t. That’s a tough one. There are plenty of women who expect the best of everything in life who work their butts off to buy it for themselves. In other words, they are high maintenance but they maintain themselves. It is when these women demand someone else take care of them that they cross the line.

I’m sure you’ve been around her before. Usually she’s the girlfriend or wife of the man you’re with. Often she’s drop-dead gorgeous and used to men catering to her every whim. She’s constantly whining that she’s hot. She needs to go to the bathroom. She’s hungry. She’s thirsty. She doesn’t like any of the food on the menu in the restaurant he’s chosen. Her highly impractical but pretty shoes are wearing blisters on her feet. Her purse is too heavy to carry. It never ends.

She’s the woman who keeps everyone waiting while she takes three hours to get ready. She demands her boyfriend treat her in an unreasonably kind way; otherwise she either throws a fit or dumps him or both. She is excessively concerned with her appearance and spends outrageous amounts of money (usually HIS) keeping herself looking immaculate. She doesn’t want children because it might ruin her figure. And she whines. A lot. He doesn’t seem to mind but you want to punch her.

For some reason these women have no problems attracting and keeping men. Maybe men like the challenge of it? Who knows. My advice to any man who sees signs a woman might be like this is that they RUN. Fast and far. But these women are hard to resist in their Manolo Blahnik sandals and Coco Chanel sunglasses. Why? Because they look GREAT. They make sure of it. Every ounce of their body has been whipped into shape by a personal trainer and what can’t be fixed there is fixed under the knife for thousands of dollars per year. Those implants look great, don’t they? Hope you like them…because in a few years when they break down and you’ve married her, guess who’s paying to fix them?

All that said, there’s nothing wrong with a high-maintenance woman who maintains herself, as long as she’s fair to the man she is in a relationship with. I’ve known seemingly high-maintenance women who pay their own way and often seem to attract men who use them for their money. It can go in both directions.

But, for the most part, high-maintenance women always get the best guys. Why? Mostly because they won’t settle for anything less. They’ll be alone before they’ll allow a man to treat them badly…and that intrigues men who go out with them. A woman who doesn’t NEED him? Sign him up for that. She comes across as independent and strong…but what he soon finds out is she’s also demanding and difficult to get along with. By then it’s too late. He’s already in love.

High maintenance [hahy-meyn-tuh-nuhns] -adjective Requiring a lot of attention. When describing a person, high-maintenance usually means that the individual is emotionally needy or prone to over-dramatizing a situation to gain attention.

Are YOU high maintenance?